It sounds kinky and you want to try it;
but how do you go about doing it? Luckily, there are new types of candles that are safe for massage as well and play with hot wax. Using some caution when choosing your candle can make a great night of erotic fun. But first, let's give you the 411 of this enjoyable fetish.
As with any sexual act you need to talk about it with your partner -
communication is the key. Does your partner want to try this? Do you
want to be the one being pleasured with the wax or do you want to do the
pleasuring? Once those questions are answered, you can proceed to the
What level of intensity?
To figure this out, here is a simple way to gauge where in the
spectrum you fall. As with most adventures, start gradually and work up.
Find a birthday candle - if you can't find one, a taper candle will
work. These types of candles are suggested because they do not create a
large amount of wax. Let the candle burn for about a minute or so, until
there is a small amount of wax available.
Pour the wax into the palm of the hand of the person wanting to be
pleasured. If your partner doesn't like the feeling at all, perhaps wax
is not for you. If they still want to try it, start at a LOW intensity;
do the same thing to the thigh. If they are fans of that location, try a
MEDIUM intensity wax approach.
This is a simple way to get the thrill of the heat of the wax as well
as the texture. It is also a "neater" approach. Burn a candle to the
point where there is a liquid wax in the approximate size of a quarter
or more. Taking your index finger, run your finger along the edge
collecting the soft wax (this provides the pleasurer with the safety of
not being burned). Take your wax-covered finger and dip it into the
liquid wax. Then place your finger on the body of the person being
pleasured. This method allows for sensual touching to play a large role
in the foreplay. This method can also be used on more sensitive parts of
the body, such as the nipples and neck.
There are special candles available that burn at a lower
temperature than regular candles. This intensity level brings the joy
of pouring wax without the high temperatures. At the end of this article are a few that I have tested and work great for couples. To pour, hand-eye
coordination, as well as communication, is necessary to make sure that
you don't miss and pour anywhere the person feels might be too
The latest advance in candles have been in the area of massage. Candle makers have developed candles that are low to medium intensity that can be used for lighting the room , enhancing the erotic aroma of a room and massage. These candles burn very slowly and are fragrant. Once the wax collects, you dip your hand into the wax and use as a soothing massage oil for your
partner. The beauty of these candles are that they are able to be tolerated fairly easily and the sensation given by a warm massage heightens the erotic experience.
A Safety Note
Although there is no need to shy away from erogenous zones, they
should be approached even more carefully and with lower intensities! The
inner thigh and small of the back are easily accessible as well as
fairly hairless examples of where to start.
To perfect the fun of hot wax,
communicate with your partner and work out their likes and dislikes to
create a foolproof system. Have fun but be careful.